Expectations bring misery

• Expectations are the root cause of misery . Life is full of expectation.We are very sensitive to our expectations and if these are not met with-We are restless, tend to react sharply. Our behaviour changes.And we revolve around meeting expectations, making expectations. And the life goes on. A mother expects her children to settle well in their life. If you are miserable today how do you think tomorrow is going to be blissful. Tomorrow will come out of you. Your tomorrow comes out of you. All your yesterdays together plus today is going to be your tomorrow. Simple arithmetic.  A wife expects her husband to be caring and loving. A husband expects his wife to fulfill his desires. Children expect their parents to buy what all they want in their life. So this type of expectation continues from person to person. When these expectations are not fulfilled then starts the misery for which each and every individual becomes prey.Junk thoughts are any thoughts that create anxiety, depression, guilt, shame, anger, blame, resentment, jealousy, envy - any thoughts that create misery.We all have junk thoughts at times, but many people never connect their junk thoughts with their misery. They think that their misery is coming form other people, or from events or circumstances. Yet research on happiness and unhappiness shows that only about 10% of unhappiness comes from outside circumstances, while fully 50% of happiness or misery comes from your own thoughts and actions. The other 40% is genetic - i.e. some people are born with sunny dispositions while others are more serious or morose. However, the research also shows that even those who are born more serious or morose, have the choice to be happy by developing the habit of thinking thoughts and taking actions that bring them joy.The soul leaves the body, expectations do not.Do we run away from meeting expectations? Or stop making expectations because, these cause misery. Both the statements are untrue. So what do we do? We expect and deliver to expectations.It is the individual’s perception to be contended with- what is available or feel miserable. So the problem lies with the perception or the one who perceives.Being contended is a source of lethargy or a state of mind is statement of fact as is true for sleep and peace of mind. Misery is just like a smoke. Somewhere there is fire inside us. Penetrate deep into the smoke so we can find the fire. we can’t put the smoke off as it is a byproduct. Only by the cause can something be done. If we fight with the effect it’s all in vain. Go to the cause… it’s somewhere there.