Monday, November 28, 2011

Loner :love living lonely

Janet previously admitted that she has become a “loner” in the house, saying she’s not made any friends with the other hopefuls and even hit out at the lack of “intellectual conversations” with her fellow finalists.
“I’ve always been a loner,” she said. “I’m not interested in making friends or getting people to like me. I’m here for the music and that’s it.”


I too like to spend a lot of time alone. I like to eat out .  I like to go driving at times.  I jog a little here and there.  And while I do a lot of that , I’m just comfortable being in the spaces by myself.Am I a loner ?
It is difficult to be introspective .So what did I think about during those moments of unusual quiet?  At first, there was a flood of thoughts about nothing.It is a depressing time to be a hotelier or even an agriculturist.  But there may be a silver lining tucked away inside this gray cloud.

It turns out we are alone in your desire to be, well, alone. Although an estimated three-quarters of the population are extroverts who thrive in social situations, the rest of us feel best only after we've had time to ourselves.For me  solitude is simply a life strategy. It's their way of coping and dealing with overstimulationWhen it comes to communication, work responsibilities and relationships, loners aren't necessarily losers who fear social functions. Many are married and maintain close relationships with their partners, family and friends; engage in social activities; and even enjoy attending a party once in a while. But idle chitchat and large social functions can be an energy drain for those who crave quiet. They need plenty of “alone time” in order to regroup .

A loner can also become a freak through isolation. Humans learn how to be human through social interaction. And there are many social skills that can only be learnt in person — isolation can lead to a lack of social skills. When you're raised in isolation, you behave differently. Many psychological disorders originate from a deficit in human interaction. Then that person will be shunned. It's kind of a vicious cycle.